yes, agree. if you are dwelling, you are worrying and that just causes wrinkles.
how about this logic: if you already know its going to happen, why do you need to worry about it happening? esp. if you've already been married. you can just plan accordingly... (ie, start preparing for down payments, getting your career started, finding potential future people, etc.)
yes, you're not just thinking/pondering (which infers that you are considering things, without bias and being open to considering all conclusions), you're being anxious.
i think the thing that makes it hard is that uncertaint of the other person. because you can have complete control over your actions and what you do in regard to what you want, but when it comes to the other person, you just have to trust them.
my advice would be to figure out who you are in the meantime. just invest your time in the things that you DO have control over. and if it ends up that it doesn't work out, then it wasn't meant to be. fish.. sea. yada yada. of course all of this disregards the strings that our hearts attach to other people and in that case, things get distorted, and it stops mattering what makes sense. because at the end of the day, your heart has to be in it.
but that doesn't mean you have to listen to your emotions. you have control over the way you decide to react to things. you just decide to be okay. but maybe right now its a little more than that. because then its not just as easy as deciding. those are my thoughts.
how about this logic: if you already know its going to happen, why do you need to worry about it happening? esp. if you've already been married. you can just plan accordingly... (ie, start preparing for down payments, getting your career started, finding potential future people, etc.)
yes, you're not just thinking/pondering (which infers that you are considering things, without bias and being open to considering all conclusions), you're being anxious.
i think the thing that makes it hard is that uncertaint of the other person. because you can have complete control over your actions and what you do in regard to what you want, but when it comes to the other person, you just have to trust them.
my advice would be to figure out who you are in the meantime. just invest your time in the things that you DO have control over. and if it ends up that it doesn't work out, then it wasn't meant to be. fish.. sea. yada yada. of course all of this disregards the strings that our hearts attach to other people and in that case, things get distorted, and it stops mattering what makes sense. because at the end of the day, your heart has to be in it.
but that doesn't mean you have to listen to your emotions. you have control over the way you decide to react to things. you just decide to be okay. but maybe right now its a little more than that. because then its not just as easy as deciding. those are my thoughts.
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